December 30

the idea that revolutionized how i set goals

My hubby and I just got home from 9 days of family-ing. It was lovely. :)

And suddenly, here we are…just one day before New Years Eve.


So naturally, I’ve been reflecting on 2013 and looking forward to 2014.

In years past, when I’ve set goals, I’ve often chased success as the end all. This was especially true exactly one year ago. I think I felt a dark cloud on my heels: I’m 27–I should, you know, HAVE SOMETHING TO SHOW FOR MYSELF by now.

Ever been there before?

So. I did what any scared person would do.

I scrambled to set impressive goals.

I scrambled to appear put together.

I scrambled to be successful.

And as it turns out, 2013 was one long, beautiful, sometimes painful lesson undoing all that scrambling.

I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Now, I think I’m finally figuring out that when I stop chasing success, and start chasing the things that really matter in life–relationships, helping, serving, giving, learning–success comes too.¬†And to be honest, the success part actually fades in light of the OVERWHELMING GOOD I’m gaining from the things that matter.

The desire for success is actually a watered down desire for meaning.

The moments that made 2013 special and amazing weren’t about success or money or appearances.

The moments that made 2013 special and amazing were about people and generosity and truth.

So, I’m setting my 2014 goals by this measure:

Relationships > Success

Giving > Success

Vulnerability > Success

Meaning > Success


What do you think? Does this resonate with you, or do you feel differently?

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6 Responses

  1. Shannon says:

    Spot on, Caroline! My goals for the new year are quite similar – do more of what matters, and let go of the pressure of accomplishing all the rest. Thanks for sharing :)

  2. lynnesy says:

    thank you so much for this caroline. exactly what i needed to hear. thank you!!!

  3. Madison says:

    I could not agree with this more. PURPOSE is the word that I keep associating with 2014. Happy New Year!

  4. Well said, Caroline! I couldn’t agree with you more. Abundance comes when we nurture ourselves and those around us. Happy New Year!

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