My hubby and I just got home from 9 days of family-ing. It was lovely. :)
And suddenly, here we are…just one day before New Years Eve.
So naturally, I’ve been reflecting on 2013 and looking forward to 2014.
In years past, when I’ve set goals, I’ve often chased success as the end all. This was especially true exactly one year ago. I think I felt a dark cloud on my heels: I’m 27–I should, you know, HAVE SOMETHING TO SHOW FOR MYSELF by now.
Ever been there before?
So. I did what any scared person would do.
I scrambled to set impressive goals.
I scrambled to appear put together.
I scrambled to be successful.
And as it turns out, 2013 was one long, beautiful, sometimes painful lesson undoing all that scrambling.
I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Now, I think I’m finally figuring out that when I stop chasing success, and start chasing the things that really matter in life–relationships, helping, serving, giving, learning–success comes too. And to be honest, the success part actually fades in light of the OVERWHELMING GOOD I’m gaining from the things that matter.
The desire for success is actually a watered down desire for meaning.
The moments that made 2013 special and amazing weren’t about success or money or appearances.
The moments that made 2013 special and amazing were about people and generosity and truth.
So, I’m setting my 2014 goals by this measure:
Relationships > Success
Giving > Success
Vulnerability > Success
Meaning > Success
What do you think? Does this resonate with you, or do you feel differently?Personal