November 25

the question that puts it all back in perspective

Remember middle school?

Remember raising your hand in class? Asking a question.

And getting that look.

You know that look. The one that says, “That’s a stupid question.”

It either came from your teacher (not cool, teacher!) or from the cool kid who inevitably sat behind you (meh…to be expected) or from the whole class (


Well…this is not middle school.


This is your life. So ask.

“You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.” -Oprah Winfrey

This quote stopped me in my tracks the other day. I was feeling sorry for myself about something, but when I came across this quote while browsing Pinterest, I realized:


All I had to do was ask.


It was that simple.

Simply by asking a question, I had started something. I had cleared a new path. I had lit a spark. I had made a connection.


In the past 5 days, I’ve been asking questions.

1. I asked my ultimate dream magazine to look at my work (yikes!) and consider bringing me on as a collaborator (double yikes!).

2. I asked a personal hero to share the word about my Thanksgiving contest + iPad giveaway.

3. I asked myself what I really wanted 2014 to look like…really. Even if the answer scared me a little.


Now I’m asking you to go out and ask.


And if you just so happen to want to ask me a question, you would make my day. Feel free to leave a question in the comments section, down below. I would love to respond to you personally and write a blog post answering your question.



Because no post is complete without pictures, here’s a sneak peek of an editorial piece I photographed for Grace In Love, the newest wedding blog on the www. The core of Grace In Love is to take a stand for what is right and good an beautiful, and to give back to the wedding industry generously. I couldn’t be more proud to be a collaborator with such big-hearted people!


P.S.  Don’t forget:

We’re giving away the new iPad mini retina!  

Find details + enter here. Go enter now–the giveaway closes the day after Thanksgiving.


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14 Responses

  1. Sarah says:

    So many people claim to be photographers. They all have a digital camera and want to become famous shooting behind it.

    So what do you recommend for the woman who truly wants to have photography as a business, but doesn’t know where to start or what equipment to purchase to make herself a viable option in the ever growing world of photography?

    • admin says:

      Hi Sarah! Thanks for asking! That’s such a great question, and you’re not alone. I’ll do my best to answer your question in an upcoming blog post. :) xoxo Caroline

  2. Caroline,

    I have to admit, I have been struggling lately with jealousy. I look at photographers blog/social media, and I become utterly jealous of how successful people are. People are on the cover of Southern Weddings two years in a row, people are yet again featured on Style Me Pretty, they have the money to buy the equipment they want, they’re able to charge what they want to, and they somehow attract brides with the most beautiful and amazing weddings.

    And I’m stuck. I charge way lower than the current industry, and yet people still ask if I can give them a discount. The weddings I do get hired for aren’t really decorated or photo-tastic. (Pause. There is nothing wrong with these weddings, they are still beautiful and meaningful. I just want to get hired for weddings that are worthy of submitting to blogs, and give me amazing creative shots.) I want brides that have gorgeous weddings, but I don’t know how to get them. I haven’t even profited yet from my business, I’m still trying to make enough money to break even from all of my investments. I have submitted to blogs, and been rejected. I emailed about 10 wedding planners/stylists asking to do a styled shoot together. The email content was very nice and respectful, and I even consulted the ladies of Half Orange Photography to make sure I was doing this right. And I got one response. Of ten very nice, kind, welcoming emails, I got ONE RESPONSE. And the one response I got was a very clear rejection. (This one really hurt my feelings.) I keep getting advice about how to grow my business from other photographers, and the main ones I get are styled shoots, spend money on advertising, and submit your work. Well, how do I spend money I’m not bringing in? Sorry I can’t charge $5,000 per wedding. Sorry I don’t get hired for 100 weddings per year. How can I do styled shoots when no one will respect me or my business enough to work with me? And how can I get featured on blogs when I don’t have work or weddings that are worthy of submitting?

    I am sorry that this comment may come off bitter. I promise I am a nice, loving, passionate person. But I am stuck. It’s not that I’m not willing to put in the work and patient, because believe me, I have worked harder on this business than anything else in my life. But what else? What am I doing wrong? How can I keep growing? How can I get hired by my ideal brides? How?

    I know this may have been a lot Caroline, and I’m sorry if this isn’t one of those “asks” that made your day. But any wisdom you can offer would mean the absolute world to me. You are one of the photographers I am deeply jealous of/adore/wish I could be as amazing as you. So, that is my big shpeal. I am sorry if it was too much. But thank you for everything.

  3. So good!! I needed this little reminder today! Thank you!! P.S. I LOVE your new branding and website design!

  4. Hannah says:

    Love how this post got me thinking. :) I too, decided to write out what I want my 2014 to look like. Frightening and exciting!

    I have a question for you though… What advice would you give to someone new in the photography industry that wants to stand out and create their own voice in the midst of some incredible peers that are simply outstanding at their craft?

    Thanks for always inspiring!

    • admin says:

      Hi Hannah! Thanks for asking! Step one: Start making a list of things that YOU love to do, see, and create. You’ll begin to find threads of common ideas. If you bring those ideas into your business, you’ll start distinguishing yourself because no one else will do it exactly like you. Need another approach? Make a giant list of things you see other photographers doing–then try not to do any of those things! Forge your own path. You’ll stand out in a heartbeat. I’ll do my best to answer your question more in depth in an upcoming blog post. :) xoxo Caroline

  5. Love you. Thanks so much for this post.

  6. Mary says:

    My question: Is it ok to reach out to other photographers in your area? I just moved to a new state and I’m a newbie photographer so I don’t want anyone to feel like I’m taking advantage of them! I really just want to get to know people with the same passions. Sometimes I feel like I am not “enough” to call up people who are actually thriving in business.

    • admin says:

      Hi Mary! Short answer: It’s more than okay! People will sense your genuine heart–don’t doubt that. And that little voice telling you you’re not “enough”? It’s no more than a lie. Choose, instead, to let the truth take root in you, set your mind on things true, noble, lovely, and let the light in. I’ll do my best to answer your question more in depth in an upcoming blog post. :) xoxo Caroline

  7. Lauren says:

    Hiya Caroline!
    Im a student currently studying photography from Australia.
    I am from a fashion background but am aching to get into wedding photography!! I am just wondering how you started/got the confidence to do what you are doing now because I wouldn’t have a clue where to start.
    P.S I love your work. :)

  8. Is that true sound interesting that people can get an iPad ,i love this ,lately i been saving money to buy new iPad and i really do a hard work for doing a document destruction to get some bonus hope that i can get bought one this month.

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